Adult life is hard. Most of us never want to grow up and want to remain 18 forever – with just the right amount of freedom and responsibility, yet not too much responsibility – we don’t need to pay our own bills nor are we expected to feed a family at 18. In Singapore, at 18 you can’t even drive yet, so you don’t even need to pay for petrol and all that. Your parents are still willing to shelter you, given that you’re not yet 21 and barely in university.
So when you grow up and become an adult in time, you’re rudely shocked with all the responsibilities you suddenly need to take on, the bills you need to pay, the money you need to control, the limits you need to set…..
But being a toddler is significantly tougher. Here’s why it’s tough being a toddler.
(Content adapted from Huffington Post.)
1. They don’t know what and how rules work.
As infants, they can do whatever they want, however they want. But as you grow older, you’re expected to follow the rules. It’s tough being a toddler because you only find out what the rules are AFTER you break them. The severity of rules are only enforced after the action.
“So regardless of how pretty the crayon colour, I can’t take it to draw on the walls??!?!”
“So even if no one understands me and I’m really frustrated, I can’t SCREAM TO LET IT ALL OUT?”
“Don’t throw sand.” You say. “But it’s so lightweight and it’s more fun to watch sprinkles of sand all around. I DON’T GET IT. I’ve only had 3-4 years of life experience!”
2. They can’t control their own schedules.
Life is not up to them. They can’t go where they want or do what they want. There’s always a time for them to do something, a place for them to be at, something against themselves they have to do. That sounds a little bit like adults, but at least you have some form of choice at times, and you can decide what activities you want to commit to.
Really enjoying the playground and was told by your parents you’re gonna have a fun time, but you have to leave in 5 minutes??? But if it’s fun and everyone’s happy, why should I have to leave??? It’s so tough being a toddler. It’s bedtime, but this television show is on and you put me in front of the television to be quiet so you could do your work, and I’m quiet, and the cartoon characters are just starting to solve the mystery of the missing candy, but I have to take a nap? Now?? Why???
3. Where’s Mama?
It’s tough being a toddler because the only person you know can suddenly go out of your sight. Don’t leave without me!
4. When you don’t know whether you want to be picked up or put down.
Adults have tough decisions to make? So do toddlers, OKAY.
Of all the drama you think a toddler can get up to, most of it (and this is also the primary reason why it’s tough being a toddler) is because………..
5. They don’t know most things about life yet.
Adults know they can’t drown in their bathtub, and that there’s absolutely no monster under the bed. Toddlers however, do not. If you believed a Golden Retriever wanted to eat you, you would probably be scared of dogs. And if you were worried that the dinosaurs on your pillowcase might come to life while you slept, you might be terrified of linens. That’s why some toddlers are scared of baths, some toddlers are scared of dogs, and some are scared of pillows. Most toddlers have some fears. And, to them, they’re not irrational ones. It’s only life experience — and an understanding of the most basic scientific concepts — that turns the world into a place that makes some sense. Okay, that’s not true. No matter how old you get, the world doesn’t make sense.
If the cute cartoon dinosaur on your pillow actually looks like this to you (even if it’s in your own head) Why would you want to sleep?
This is why it’s so important to be patient with toddlers, and to give them extra love, simply because it’s very tough being a toddler. If this post tickled you, here are 7 things only parents of toddlers understand.