Pregnancy superstitions and why we should follow them

pregnancy superstitions

When you first announce your pregnancy, you get the usual – “Congrats! Remember not to do xxxxx”. Like hey, it’s my child, don’t tell me how to raise them.

But then again, these pregnancy superstitions do have some merit. No smoke without a fire, eh?

We have compiled a list of the most common pregnancy superstitions;

Defer your pregnancy announcements till after the first trimester (3 months)

It is believed that announcing your pregnancy too early will increase the chance of a miscarriage, as most miscarriages happen in the first trimester.

No home renovations

The Chinese believe actions like sawing, drilling and hammering, (that are common during home renovations) are harmful to the baby’s spirit and could cause fetal deformities. If its an emergency, being away from the renovations are believed to help. Also calling your baby’s spirit away from the renovation site will prevent any harm from coming to him/her.

No using scissors or needles on the bed

Using scissors or needles on the bed symbolizes cutting of umbilical cord and causes birth defects. While there are many people with experience with this particular pregnancy superstition, it is still unsure whether its coincidence or the superstition has a legitimate claim.

Put a knife under the bed

This is done to ward off evil spirits with evil or malicious intent from harming your baby’s spirit.

No attending funerals

Funerals are largely considered unlucky in Chinese culture and therefore, people often warn expecting mothers to avoid attending any. However, in the case where it is necessary, it is recommended to tie a red scarf around the belly area to ward off the negative energy from the funeral.

No cursing

Cursing is far more common in today’s society, so much so a curse word is always at the tip of your tongue. Try to refrain from cursing or have anyone around you say any curse words as it is believed that cursing around the unborn child equates cursing him/her. In Western culture, this is also avoided as they don’t want the baby’s first words to be a curse word.

No rubbing belly

Its normal to want to caress your pregnant belly, but its told that excessive rubbing of the belly will result in a spoiled child.

Have you heard any of these superstitions passed down from your mum/grandmother? I know I’ll definitely be abiding by these “guidelines”. It’s better to be safe, than sorry.

Grandparents Baby Shower

As Singaporeans, the cost of living is so high, it is rare that new parent will be able to comfortably afford to quit their job once pregnant. Therefore, in most cases, the responsibility of taking care of your newborn either falls to your parents or in-laws after the 16 week paid maternity period has passed. (Read also: Maternity leave around the world)

If a soon to be mom gets a baby shower, why shouldn’t grandparents get their baby shower too for their precious grandchild?

So what’s a Grandparents Baby Shower?

It’s a relatively new concept. Grandparents welcome the chance to pamper their grand kids. Plus, they’re already well equipped with the skills necessary to take care of your baby. (They might even have some tricks up their sleeve passed down from their parents!) And with this grandparents baby shower, it will also equip them with any items necessary, like diapers and onesies.

Given the steadily decreasing sizes of BTO flats, its highly impossible to make room for the soon to be grandparents. Assuming they have a place of their own, they will need the duplicates for their own baby room/corner so they are able to take care of your baby to the best of their abilities.

So if you’re a grandparent, go ahead and throw a baby shower for your grandchild.  If you are a gift giver who’s been invited to a grandparent baby shower, the baby shower gifts are similar to what you would give the new parents too.

(Read also: How to get the baby shower gifts you actually want)

And here are clickable links to unique baby shower gifts you didn’t know you needed.

How often should I change my newborn’s diapers?

It’s a repetitive chore, and you will start dreading the same foul smell coming from your baby, as that would mean it’s time to change your newborn’s diaper.

newborn's diaper

But here’s a general guide on how often you should be changing your baby’s diaper as leaving the nasty stuff there increases the risk of a diaper rash or worse still, an infection.

The American Pregnancy Association recommends changing wet diapers every two to three hours, but as soon as you notice poop either visually or through your heightened sense of smell once you become a new mommy.

Diapers are expensive, especially when you’re going through 16-20 pieces a day. You don’t have to change the diaper every time your newborn pees, as they pee about 20 times a day, only when they poop so you lower the chance of irritation or worse, infection.

Luckily for parents, the amount of diapers used will decrease as their diet will tend to contain more solids, but that also means more poops.

Remember to always leave a two finger spacing on the top of the diaper.  This is to prevent it from being too tight or loose!

newborn's diaper

Maternity Leave around the World

Do you know the “market rate” of maternity leave? We have compiled a list of major cities/countries in the world with paid maternity leave, in comparison to our own.

Singapore

16 weeks

  • 8 paid by employer, 8 paid by government *for the first two children, maternity leave taken for the third child will be paid for by the government

Hong Kong

10 weeks 

  • daily rate of maternity leave pay is a sum equivalent to four-fifths of the average daily wages earned by an employee in the 12-month period preceding the first day of the maternity leave

Japan

14 weeks

  • 6 weeks prior to delivery, 8 weeks postpartum. Child care leave is also an option for new parents.

Korea

90 days

  • The amount of maternity leave pay is paid based on the worker’s ordinary wage on the first day of the said leave, but it should not exceed 4.05 million won for the 90 days. If the amount of ordinary wage for a worker exceeds 1.35 million won per month, the employer should pay the difference.

China

98 days

  • Any female older than 24 years of age when having her first child will be considered a case of late childbirth and will be entitled to an additional 30 days of paid leave (varies by province)

Canada

12 or 18 months

  • 12 months with 55% pay (at a maximum of $543 a week) or 18 months; 15 weeks at 55% pay rate and 61 weeks at 33%.

United States

None

  • 42 of 50 states do not offer paid maternity leave, only 12 weeks of job protection. California is the only state offering paid maternity leave to both men and women.

Mexico

12 weeks

  • Women are entitled to 12 weeks paid leave at 100%, and men, a week.

Brazil

17 weeks

  • Women receive 17 weeks of leave at 100% pay. Men are to receive less than a week at100% pay.

India

26 weeks

  • Women receive 26 weeks of leave at100% pay. Men may take three weeks of leave at 100% pay.

United Kingdom

38 weeks

  • 90% pay for the first 6 weeks and a flat rate for the remaining duration

France

16 weeks

  • Women are entitled to 16 weeks of leave at 100% pay, while men can take 2 or more weeks at 100% pay up to a ceiling.

Sweden

68 weeks

  • to be split between both parents, with 80% coverage up to 910SEK a day

Russia

20 weeks

  • Women may take 20 weeks of leave with 100% pay up to a ceiling. Additional parental leave of 156 weeks, or three years, is available unpaid.

Australia

18 weeks

  • Women receive 18 weeks at the minimum wage. Men may take two weeks at the minimum wage. (minumum wage at $17.70)

Germany

14 weeks

  • Job protection is provided from the beginning of pregnancy to 4 months postpartum. 6 weeks before birth and 8 weeks after.

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